Stars aglow like scattered sparks
Span the sky in clockwork arcs
Hint at more than we can see
Spiritual machinery
~ ”Clockwork Angels,” N. Peart ‘12
Monday, 12/10/12
8:07 PM
At home
Data are the mechanics, the guts
and organs, the truth and the reality.
The rest is mostly just ideological guessing. It’s the difference between sensing the time of day and actually
looking at a clock.
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This is the second installment of
the results from the 2010 sex survey I posted on surveymonkey. Last week’s blog post talked a little
bit about the basics: top, bottom, vers; safe sex or bareback; and a little
about fetishes. This week, we’re
looking at who likes a good pounding and who’s more into the slow & steady,
while also getting more into the fetishes.
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I’m a voyeur, so I was curious to
see who’s into a good ass pounding vs. slow & steady fucking. I asked the question because I was
curious to see if bottoms and tops differered, but the more interesting aspect
to me turned out to be how safesexers and barebackers answered. Of those who
answered this question, the Barebacker and Safesexer pie charts each include
both bottoms and tops, while the Those Who Bottom and Those Who Top graphs
represent safesexers and barebackers.
Also, I’ve only included
those who were either strictly safe or bareback, not including those who said
“Depends,” in this regard.
According to this limited sample,
those who bottom tend to like getting pounded a full third more than tops like
to give it. I’d have guessed the
opposite, given my own experiences.
I often see tops getting their frustrations out, while bottoms intimate
to me that older guys tend to be better tops because we don’t always fuck like
we’re trying to split the bottom in half.
So seeing how much bottoms like to be pounded surprised me. I’m in the
76% percentile, as a top – I like to mix it up.
Safesexers here like a pounding
about as much as the Slow & Steady, but the difference is that barebackers prefer
a good pounding considerably more than those who only play safe. I don’t truly know what this means, but
one could infer that barebackers are more “all out,” as opposed to safesexers,
who may tend to being more patient and reserved.
But that is only conjecture.
For fetishes, the poll asked guys
to name what their into, unprompted, as opposed to having them read a list then
check them off. This way, it’s
more pure and unfettered by suggestion.
In reading a list, one is more likely to say, “Oh yeah, I’m into that
too...and that one and that one and that one...” I prefer to see what comes to mind.
I’m not at all surprised to see
that the Gang Bang is the most popular fantasy, but seeing Bondage & Discipline
at #2 throws me a bit. I’d have
figured Uniforms, Twinks, Muscles, or even Rimming to get a higher
placement. Shows how much I know
(which is why I dig research). Fistfucking,
too, comes in higher than I’d have predicted. I’d already known that Piss/Watersports is actually popular,
but only because of what I do for a living; prior to that, there’s no way I’d
have thought so many guys are into Watersports.
So, is any of this news to you?
The next blog post will break out
the fetishes by Bottom/Top, and by Safesexers/Barebackers. Stay tuned.
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About a year-and-a-half ago, when I
moved to The East Village, I stopped cutting my hair. I’d wanted to experience a different trip, or a different
leg of my life’s journey, just to see what it’s like. I grew my hair in my mid-teens (‘til Dad said cut it!),
again in my early 20s, then again a couple of years later when I was lead
singer in a rock band (in the days of Pearl Jam, et al). At age 42, I thought I’d give it one
more shot, while I’ve still got the hair to do it with.
I also did it because I don’t think
long hair is sexy. Yes, don’t. Why would I do that?
Because I got sick of thinking of myself that way, and placing too much
emphasis on whether or not others thought of me that way. I wanted to “untether” myself (I wasn’t
exactly chained) from others’
perceptions. So far, it’s worked
out nicely. Now, I’m more about
allowing myself to just BE.
I think long hair looks much cooler
than short hair, just not sexier.
For all the years I had a regular day job, whenever I’d seen a man over
a certain age with long hair, I’d wonder what he does for a living to be able
to have his hair like that.
I’d also admire him for being so free, which is one of my major Life
Trips.
But there is something I wasn’t
expecting. Part of maturing is not
being defined by that which is outside oneself, as much as what is inside; that
which is actual, as opposed to projected. It’s taught me that I’ve finally
arrived at that age, where the hair or the clothes don’t make me.
I make the hair and the clothes.
I’ve also learned that guys still
want to play with me, even though I no longer look like Mr. Cop/Marine. However, I still think most guys are like
me: into short hair.
What do you think? Please check out the long hair/short
hair poll to the right and let us know.
The Örgy Guy
